This is my answer on Quora to a young person who was concerned about not having goals.
There are a few reasons why you may not have goals right now. We’ll look at those and see if you can use that information to get to where you want to be.
But first — there is nothing wrong with not having goals. You are still very young, and just because there’s lots of advice out there about how to achieve your goals, it doesn’t mean that you have to have goals. At your age, you are thinking about things and questioning everyone else’s wisdom, and that is a good thing.
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If you want goals, they will come. Let’s look at some things that might be relevant right now when you aren’t satisfied with how things are:
- When you are looking out at the world from high school, there is so much out there. You might even say that there is too much.
- With so much to do, so many potential goals, can you see how hard it is to select 1, 2 or 3 goals? Why would you even want to?
- There is even a case for not limiting your adventures by narrowing down to goals at this stage.
- Passion and goals don’t have to come at you from the world.
- Passion and goals aren’t always things of the mind.
- Passion and goals can come from doing.
- They can come from achieving some mastery (even if it is mastery in something you didn’t expect to be a goal).
- An extreme example: You might have a part-time job just for money. You might work at a burger restaurant. After achieving mastery at this job, you discover that you like being able to keep up with demand, you like being accurate with taking money and giving change, you might even take pride in your cleaning duties. That is an extreme example, but can you see how passion and goals might come from doing something and achieving a level of skill?
- When you are achieving and enjoying that achievement, a goal might develop organically and it might involve more advanced use of that skill.
- It might involve another skill, but the fact that you enjoyed mastering skills in your part-time job will give you the knowledge that you can develop a skill and master it and that you will find that very satisfying – and Boom – you have a goal.
- A goal might be just around the corner. Who knows what need you might find and decide that you are just the person to meet that need.
- It might be helpful to look at the lives of people who achieved great or interesting things and see where they developed the desire to do what they did. Many of their passions came from unexpected places.
- So, if you keep your options open a bit longer, you will be ready to pounce on a goal when a good one comes along.
- Or you could go looking for goals.
- Think what you like to do.
- Think of needs that might be out there in your community, or the world.
- Look at your skills and talents.
- Look at what others like your friends are doing. It might be more fun to join in with them, at least in the short term.
- Look at the areas of study that are offered to you for when you leave school.
- What are your interests and what do you like to do in your spare time?
- From these points, you might find that something starts to become obvious to you.
- Remember that most people change and refine their goals all the time.
You have plenty of time, and good luck with your adventures, because life is lots of adventures.